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“I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore Since…”

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“I don’t know who I am anymore” 

Have you found yourself feeling this same way? This is such a common sentiment of middle aged or older women. Men as well, however I hear this more so from women. So many possible reasons or circumstances that cause people to feel this way;

I don’t know who I am anymore since …… 

the kids went to college,

moved out on their own, married or even,  

since ‘they don’t need me anymore.’

I don’t know who I am anymore since….

I retired, 

my injury/illness (mental or physical)

my divorce or 

my spouse passed away. 

Can you relate with any of these feelings? What have you found that helps? Do you feel all alone in these feelings? I’m here to tell you that this is all very common, and you definitely are not alone. 

Well meaning loved ones may try to offer help by giving you advice, inviting you out, or suggesting you get involved in other activities. Some may remind you that this is your time to relax and enjoy yourself, to put your feet up, get involved in other interests, or travel. Not bad advice at all, and some of it may help. However, the feelings and the emotions may still be there. Those feelings hinge on depression, or anxiety. Those emotions may be a big component of depression or anxiety. 

There may also be issues from childhood, or a traumatic experience earlier in life, that were buried deep, and suppressed as long as you were busy with the kids/family/spouse/career. These could possibly be resurfacing now that you don’t have these other commitments to fill your days with. You may not even be aware. This is a good journaling prompt, or focus for meditation, or some inner child work.

I am a board certified hypnotherapist, and of course I’m going to let you know that hypnotherapy is a great way to help. It’s not just a way to feel a little better, but to gain clarity, self confidence, motivation, and release old wounds or limiting beliefs. (and much more)

However I’m not here to convince you to try hypnotherapy, or even say its the only, or best way to get through these trying times. I’m here to assist you on your healing journey back to wellness. Back to self, inside and out. (The mind-body connection really is so strong) 

Other lifestyle factors contribute to feelings of being unmotivated, or lost within your self and your life. You may be thinking it’s too big a task to tackle at this time to think about quitting smoking, sugar or alcohol. To try to get better sleep, eat better, add some exercise and a form of spiritual practice into your life. These things are all related to your mental health and overall well being too. They’re all connected. They are not separate dishes on the menu, but all part of the same soup. The mind-body wellness soup! (I do love analogies, afterall it is soup season – at the time of this writing) 

There are more traditional (or I should say conventional) routes you can try, as well as some energy healing, ancient and/or newer types of holistic therapies that all can be very helpful.

Counseling, talk therapy, CBT ( cognitive behavioral therapy) EFT (Emotional freedom Technique), NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programing) , EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)  Reiki, polarity, yoga, Qi-gong, acupuncture, acupressure, sound therapy, art therapy… and many others. 

It’s good to look into a few different wellness options that sound interesting and explore on your own. It may take patience and diligence to find what’s best for you. It’s also a great idea to have a few modalities in your tool box to pull out as needed. Nothing is best or right for everyone. 

What works well for your friend or neighbor may not be what works well for you. 

I offer Hypnotherapy which uses Hypnosis in a therapeutic model, by gently guiding you within yourself to relax the physical body, and quiet the busy conscious mind, to address the subconscious mind. This is done through relaxation techniques, specific wording and sometimes visualization techniques. Very much like a guided meditation, however the focus is deeper. I also offer spiritual guidance to find your own spiritual path from within yourself. (This is not about religion, although it can be, it’s about finding what’s right and true for you from within your own heart and soul) 

If you’re interested in working with me, or have any questions, contact me (Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com). I always offer free consultations to address any concerns, or questions you may have. A complimentary sample session is offered during the consultation as well, if you’re interested in trying it out before you make any commitments. Find a contact form, and more information here: HypnoBreakthrough

I hope this helps, even knowing that you are not alone, that your feelings are valid, and that there is hope can bring a little relief. 

Thank you so much for reading and sharing in this time and space with me. 

Please take care, inside and out! Pamela Topjian CHt 

What Is Spiritual Guidance?

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How can a spiritual guide help me?

What comes to mind when you hear the term “spiritual guidance”? Or the words, spiritual, spirit or even soul? Do you feel you have a good understanding, or belief around these terms? 

There may be a specific definition, or a belief system – however in reality it’s deeply personal to the individual. What’s within YOU is what matters most. 

Acrylic Painting by Pamela Topjian

A guide is a person who shows you the way. 

A spiritual guide may even show up in unexpected ways, through a dying loved one, an ill child, or even a vibrant healthy child playing. Even a stranger, an animal or a dream… the possibilities are virtually endless. 

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and own common sense” – Buddha (Siddhārtha Gautama)

A spiritual guide should help to guide you on your own path, not theirs, or anyone else’s.

(or whatever may be trending in the world of spirituality at the time – possibly due to a celebrity interest or endorsement, cinema or even social media.)

A good spiritual guide will guide you to your own inner wisdom, help you to release any past guilt or shame around beliefs that no longer feel right and true for you, or perhaps never did. A good spiritual guide will offer suggestions or exercises designed to better understand your own truth. 

Where are you on your spiritual path right now? 

Painting by Pamela Topjian

Do you feel you have lost your way, or were never even close to it?

Are you missing something in life, but unsure what it is? Wondering if spirituality or a spiritual practice may help? There is much to explore, and you never know it may be hidden just beneath the surface, or deep within your soul. Your answers may be found in your childhood or ancestry or even past lives. 

Do you feel a deep connection to nature and the earth, or maybe something far away from the earth, and sky – not of this earth? Just reading that previous line, notice what comes up for you.

Acrylic Painting by Pamela Topjian

Have you had a transcendent experience, out of body experience, or even a paranormal experience that you wish to find answers about? Perhaps you’re fearful of an experience you’ve had, or even some thoughts that you would like some clarity around. 

Nobody can tell you, or do the work for you, but you don’t have to do it alone. There were lots of questions within this article. These are questions to ask yourself, perhaps you’ll find clarity by going through the article, writing out the questions and using them as journal prompts. (I have large hard cover journals with some of my paintings on the cover on Amazon, just put my name “Pamela Topjian” in the Amazon search bar)

If you’re interested in learning more about spiritual guidance for yourself, feel free to send me a message with any questions, or to schedule a free consultation by phone or zoom.

Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough or use the contact form on the website HypnoBreakthrough.com

Thank you for sharing in the time and space with me. I do not believe in coincidences or accidents. I am grateful for the connection.

Please take care, inside and out! Pamela Topjian

My QHHT Experience

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QHHT (Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique) Founded and created by Dolors Cannon (1931-2014) 

As you may know, I am a board certified hypnotherapist. Which is not the same as a QHHT practitioner. However both work within the realm of the subconscious mind.

I have both conducted, and had several hypnotherapy sessions by other hypnotherapists over the years. I know that I fall into a deep state fairly easily. I meditate daily, and have for most of my adult life. 

This was, however, my first QHHT session. I had a session with a level one intern. I went to their house (or they will come to you) as these sessions are not recommended to do over the phone, or even by any video call.

I laid down with a blanket over me, and they had me visualize certain things to see if I could see them, or get a sense of them in my mind’s eye. Then, asked permission from the subconscious to ask some questions. 

I don’t remember from there on out – luckily it was all recorded. 

I didn’t remember when I came back, however when talking about some of it afterwards with the practitioner, I could remember some of it. Listening to the recording later that night, I saw it all again clearly. 

I felt very comfortable and could see everything so clearly as if I was living it. I went into three past lives, it felt so nice there, and I didn’t want to leave each one as we went on. I  received some life lessons from each one that are helpful for me in this lifetime. 

I had felt like I was shaking at some point, but they said I wasn’t when I asked afterwards. I took a nap when I got home. What I didn’t expect was a few days of feeling on a high, and unfocused. I was so glad I hadn’t planned anything else for that same day. I had a hard time doing much of anything that wasn’t just part of my daily activities for a couple of days. 

The QHHT sessions are gaining popularity as a past life regression therapy, and before or between life on earth viewing (this may be controversial for some, I realize)  although it’s much more than that, and it may not even be somewhere your subconscious or higher self brings you (or shows you) 

 Many people have been known to get answers about (or even be healed from) health issues. We tried, we did get some spiritual reasons for my health issues, and my subconscious said that we could heal my health issues, but honestly they are still with me. I do fully believe in these types of spontaneous/miracle healings, but it didn’t happen (yet) for me.  

These sessions are meant to be a deeply healing experience in general, and I haven’t heard of anyone that did not gain some sort of benefit from them. You do not have to believe in past lives, other realms or dimensions etc. to have a session, and for it to be beneficial for you. 

Have you tried a QHHT session? I would love to hear your experience. If you have any other questions about my own experience, feel free to reach out. You can contact me via the contact form on the home page or send an email Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com

Take care, Inside and out. Pamela

How To Show Up For Yourself.

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What does it mean to show up for yourself? 

Beyond physically showing up where you have an appointment, a plan or obligation. Show up for yourself – walk your talk, and talk your walk with integrity and honor. Strive to not for greatness, but to do your best each day, to also honor the days you need to rest, reflect, or just be still or at one with yourself. 

Show up – be true to you. Treat yourself with loving kindness. Treat yourself as you would your child, your grandparents or even your fur-baby. 

Every day you make decisions and choices to show up for yourself, or not. 

How can I honor my body and still eat junk food daily. How can I value peace yet, stay in an environment that is toxic to my being, or start an argument, or lash out, even just online with a stranger, or even if just in my mind to myself.

Ask yourself what is most important to me? Showing up for yourself is making sure your daily actions, (words and thoughts) are in line with what is most important to you. Make a list of your priorities and ask yourself before starting something new, is this in line with my priorities?

Doing some shadow work is helpful in being able to truly show up for yourself. The “Shadow Self” is a concept first coined by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, that describes those aspects of the personality that we choose to reject and repress. 

Carl Gustav Jung 1875-1961

One experiment you can do to reveal your shadow self, and begin to do shadow work is one by a college professor. He handed out cards to his students and asked them to think of the person that irritates them the most. Maybe even the person they “hate” the most… once they have that person in mind, to write down 5 things, or reasons this person irritates them. 

Then he told them to look at the list and identify at least 3 of those things that are within themselves, parts of themselves they hide, or repress. 

This can be pretty eye opening, and can help start some shadow work. 

Showing up for yourself isn’t always easy. Especially if you’re the type of person that avoids confrontation, people pleases above your own wishes or needs, or has some unhealthy habits (physically or mentally)

Who doesn’t have unhealthy habits, don’t worry, you’re not alone. Showing up for yourself  is being honest with yourself, and a willingness to be candid and vulnerable. A willingness to work on those parts of yourself you may try to repress, as well as working towards improvement. There is always more to heal, more to learn, more ways to serve yourself (and others) If you’re on this earth as a human – there’s room for improvement. 

“Nobody’s perfect, but all of us can be better than we are.” -Jackie Stewart

Again, this doesn’t mean you have to run yourself into exhaustion, or burnout striving for improvement. This would in fact, be the opposite of showing up for yourself. 

Rest when need be, do what you love, do what feeds your soul, be who you say you are, and most of all, show yourself love and grace. Sometimes showing up for yourself is just choosing a small step in self-care.

If you’re having trouble even identifying what is important to you. If you have been disconnected from self for so long, you don’t even know who you are anymore. I would love to invite you on a quick contact call. A free consultation to show you how I may help guide you back to self.  To learn more, check out my HypnoBreakthrough website.

So I ask you, are you showing up for yourself? I would love to hear how you show up for yourself. Regardless of if you’re interested in booking with me. I love hearing people’s stories and the different paths we have all found to self love and self improvement. 

Please take care, inside and out. -Pamela Topjian

Use This Technique To Live Your Future Life Now!

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Have you heard of future life progression?

There are techniques in Hypnotherapy known as regression therapy. The Hypnotherapist will guide you into a state much like a dream state. Relaxing the physical body, quieting the conscious mind, and directing the subconscious mind to take you back to a place or time. This is often in childhood to help release blocks, forgive yourself or others, or to have a silent conversation within your mind’s eye with your past self, or another from that time in your life. I have found this to be very beneficial for myself, and my clients. 

Another regression technique is Past Life Regression (PLR). Two of the most prominent names of this therapeutic approach are psychiatrist Dr. Brian Weiss and Doloras Cannon, founder and creator of Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT). In this technique the hypnotherapist gently guides you back in your mind’s eye to a past life. Which can be beneficial in many ways. 

Both Dr. Brain Weiss and Dolores Cannon have several books, if you would like to learn more. 

However, have you heard of Future Life Progression? 

A few quotes and sayings relating to this; If you can see it you can be it, if you can dream it you can do it. As above so below, as within so without.

“The way we experience the world around us, is a direct reflection of the world within us” – Gabrielle Bernstein

Inner Changes absolutely create outer changes. You don’t have to have the answers to how it will happen, or even know what you would like your future to be. 

With hypnotherapy we go deep within your subconscious to gently release blocks and obstacles that may be holding you back. This will open doors, and allow you to be aware of opportunities and paths you may not have noticed before. We ask your subconscious mind, your inner wisdom, to guide you towards the best path for you.  

Future Life Progression

Some steps you can take on your own right now, is to look at a photo of yourself as a child, or even a younger adult, and ask them to tell you where they see themselves in 5-10 years. Ask what their biggest dreams are. Close your eyes, or keep looking at the photo and imagine how they may have answered such a question. You may want to do this in meditation or by journaling.  So often we will get answers by just writing out a question, or a statement and then free hand, or free flow the writing (sort of an automatic writing exercise) You may be surprised at the results.

Are you interested in experiencing the Future Life Progression Hypnotherapy technique for yourself?

Then do something today, that your future self will thank you for and contact Pamela to get started on HypnoBreakthrough’s Future Life Progression program: 

This is a commitment to yourself and your future self. 

The Future Life Progression program consists of 3-6 sessions all together (depending on your needs and responsiveness)

In each session we will relax your physical body, quiet your conscious mind, and then clear your energy field, inside and out. In subsequent sessions, which will vary according to your needs and responses we will:

– Take you to a childhood dream of yourself as an adult.

– Look deep within yourself for clarity and guidance.

– Remove limiting beliefs from your past, which may have caused blocks, and obstacles deep within.

 –Take a look back, and a look ahead. 

Future Life Progression

Contact me to schedule your FREE consultation if your excited to get get started on this program! Send an email at Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com or use the contact form on the homepage HypnoBreakthrough.com

I Wrote My Memoir

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It is such an amazing feeling to have reached a goal of publishing my story, and to be an author. 

My book is titled “I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come THIS Far” Another title I considered was “The first fifty years are only practice” 

This is my own memoir. I started writing this book 5 years ago, and it was published in January 2022. I like to say that  it was 55 years in the making, and 5 years in the writing. Which is absolutely the case. I had a hard time coming to an end, since I was going to stop writing and end this book when my life settled down. However,  it’s clear that isn’t happening any time soon. I didn’t come this far to only come THIS far! I keep going, keep reaching my goals and dreams. It’s all even amazing to me, considering where I came from and how far down I was. 

I wanted to share my story with others, to show that in a real life story, that no matter what you are going through, or have been through, you can do more than survive, and just exist. There’s nothing special, or different about me. Much of what I have been through is all too common. 

I started writing my life story mainly as a form of therapy. To get it all out of me, and off of my chest. It was difficult at times, but very therapeutic. My story is one of childhood trauma that led to trauma in adulthood, eventually leading to a total breakdown in life. It doesn’t stop there, in fact that breakdown was a catalyst to a breakthrough in life. Now I’m not only living my life, but loving my life, checking off goals and thriving, finally in my 50’s.

My ultimate hope is to inspire others, so they know they are not alone, and that it can and does get better. I also wrote my story so as not to go to the grave without my story told, from my own point of view. So my ancestors will have a peek into the life of their great great grandmother or aunt. My goal for the book is to have made an impact and to know that it gave hope to those who have felt hopeless.

“I Didn’t Come This Far To Only Come THIS Far” by Pamela M. Topjian

I plan to write a book about the experience itself. The experience of writing out my story. As well as a bit of a how-to. There have been many people who have told me they have always wanted to write their story, but don’t know where to start. I may continue with volume two, as to what happens next in my life. This will depend on how much interest there is and how the rest of my life plays out. 

I do feel the need to give a sensitivity warning for domestic violence, rape, poverty and neglegt. This book is not all negative or depressing, it does end on a high note, reaching my goals and loving life! I just know that there is so much more to come. Because, it’s true “I Didn’t Come This Far To Only Come THIS Far” as the title says. I’m very excited for the future! 

A bit about me personally; I’m very happily married in a loving respectful marriage after two toxic marriages. I am the mother of two adult children, I meditate daily, and a certified hypnotherapist conducting sessions worldwide through zoom and phone. You can find more information on my website: HypnoBreakthrough.com I help people to dive deep within their own inner guidance to make positive changes in their lives. I changed careers after 14 years in the medical field as a licensed nurse to assist people on a more holistic and deeper level. I love animals and help with pet sitting here and there. I also love to paint, my artwork can be seen on products on Redbubble.com under “PamelaMarieArt” I sell the original paintings myself. My Book can be found on Amazon in paperback, kindle and on kindle unlimited. “I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come THIS Far”

Thank you so much for your interest. If you do read the book I would love honest feedback, weather or not you write a review on Amazon.