What comes to mind when you hear the term “spiritual guidance”? Or the words, spiritual, spirit or even soul? Do you feel you have a good understanding, or belief around these terms?
There may be a specific definition, or a belief system – however in reality it’s deeply personal to the individual. What’s within YOU is what matters most.
Acrylic Painting by Pamela Topjian
A guide is a person who shows you the way.
A spiritual guide may even show up in unexpected ways, through a dying loved one, an ill child, or even a vibrant healthy child playing. Even a stranger, an animal or a dream… the possibilities are virtually endless.
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and own common sense” – Buddha (Siddhārtha Gautama)
A spiritual guide should help to guide you on your own path, not theirs, or anyone else’s.
(or whatever may be trending in the world of spirituality at the time – possibly due to a celebrity interest or endorsement, cinema or even social media.)
A good spiritual guide will guide you to your own inner wisdom, help you to release any past guilt or shame around beliefs that no longer feel right and true for you, or perhaps never did. A good spiritual guide will offer suggestions or exercises designed to better understand your own truth.
Where are you on your spiritual path right now?
Painting by Pamela Topjian
Do you feel you have lost your way, or were never even close to it?
Are you missing something in life, but unsure what it is? Wondering if spirituality or a spiritual practice may help? There is much to explore, and you never know it may be hidden just beneath the surface, or deep within your soul. Your answers may be found in your childhood or ancestry or even past lives.
Do you feel a deep connection to nature and the earth, or maybe something far away from the earth, and sky – not of this earth? Just reading that previous line, notice what comes up for you.
Acrylic Painting by Pamela Topjian
Have you had a transcendent experience, out of body experience, or even a paranormal experience that you wish to find answers about? Perhaps you’re fearful of an experience you’ve had, or even some thoughts that you would like some clarity around.
Nobody can tell you, or do the work for you, but you don’t have to do it alone. There were lots of questions within this article. These are questions to ask yourself, perhaps you’ll find clarity by going through the article, writing out the questions and using them as journal prompts. (I have large hard cover journals with some of my paintings on the cover on Amazon, just put my name “Pamela Topjian” in the Amazon search bar)
If you’re interested in learning more about spiritual guidance for yourself, feel free to send me a message with any questions, or to schedule a free consultation by phone or zoom.
Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough or use the contact form on the website HypnoBreakthrough.com
Thank you for sharing in the time and space with me. I do not believe in coincidences or accidents. I am grateful for the connection.
There are many ways to help you through the healing process. There is not just one way that is the best, or one way that will be helpful for all. My last article was a basic overview of Childhood Trauma.
In that article, I mentioned this next one I would have more information about healing from Childhood trauma.
Self care is vital. Balance is important. The mind and body work together. Our outer world and inner world also work together. Even basic self care that most of us are aware of but also, most of us are lacking in, believe it or not, is part of healing. Eat a balanced healthy diet. This includes staying well hydrated with good clean water, getting enough good sleep, having a spiritual or mindfulness practice that you are comfortable with, a social network (no, this doesn’t include social media). Now more than ever, to have a connection with friends and family in a safe manner is important for our mental well being. Getting exercise and having hobbies you enjoy is important, and last but not least, remember good hygiene. This is a basic list, not in any particular order. Oftentimes these self care basics are overlooked as a result of the trauma from the past that is disrupting our own self care.
If you don’t have the skills or knowledge for self care due to neglect in your childhood, please do not be embarrassed to reach out, you are not at fault.
Reach out. Ask your doctor or primary care provider, or even a trusted friend or loved one. If you’re in therapy (of any kind) bring this issue up to them and they will be happy to help you, completely judgement free. Medical and mental health professionals are there to help you in any way they can. They may refer you or give you other resources they think will be more helpful if they aren’t a good fit. You also are free to search for another, if you don’t feel heard or understood. It does take patience and diligence to find a good fit sometimes when it comes to the right treatment plan for you.
Self care is usually thought of as spa days, and little luxuries, or gifts we give ourselves. It’s so much more than that. However, it does help with self-love, self-respect and confidence.
Painting by Pamela Topjian
Self-help techniques for childhood trauma. Journaling can be helpful to become clear on your thoughts and feelings. If you’re unsure where to start, ask yourself what your inner child needs to know, what would you like to tell that little one inside of you? Writing your story is very healing as well, I recently have done this myself. See: “Your Story Matters”
Try writing letters to people without the intention of sending them, even to those who are deceased, or who may be dangerous to contact. Write it all out, then bury it, or burn it, or both. Have a silent conversation with a person or even a situation, imagine what you would say, what did you need to say in the past but never had the chance? What would you like to say now from your adult perspective? You can do this in meditation, while on a walk, or even just laying in bed before you go to sleep.
Healing through art is helpful. It’s a creative outlet for those stuck emotions, or can be a way to help unwind and relax, something to focus on that keeps your mind from any negative or racing thoughts. You don’t have to have any skill or take any lessons or wait for a class, unless you want to, but you don’t have to.
I started painting at a particularly stressful time in my life in 2019 just for the fun of it, just to have some way to express myself creatively. I never had a class and didn’t care about the outcome but in less than 2 years have come a long way in my painting. It’s not even about the finished product still, it’s the process that is so healing, and therapeutic. I had no idea it would be so therapeutic for me.
There are trained certified art therapists if you’re interested in finding one, which will be more helpful than taking an art class or course when it comes to using art as a form of therapy. If this sounds interesting to you, please don’t wait – pick up a pencil now and start doodling, get a few cheap paint brushes and some art pad… start today.
My own Painting, Breakthrough Woman, by Pamela Topjian
I have had a couple clients that journal with art and words, it’s so amazing what they come up with, I’m so honored when they share with me.
There are many books on childhood healing, or healing from childhood trauma and CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Some from spiritual perspectives, some from therapists and others from medical doctors. Check your local bookstore or an online shop to see the variety of books. Read the reviews and descriptions to find one that resonates with you. (I purposefully am not suggesting any particular one here, so you can find a good fit for you specifically)
Self care may also include alternative therapies, such as different types of holistic or energy healers, aroma therapy or sound therapy as well. All of which can be complimentary to more traditional therapies, or medical treatments.
Awareness is key.. As stated in my last article on Childhood trauma, not all trauma is abuse or physical. It can be hard to recognize that you are even suffering from the effects of childhood trauma. If you read my story (link above) you will see clearly how my childhood was traumatic, but when I went to therapy after an abusive marriage I had no idea, it hadn’t even occurred to me that my childhood had played a part in the debilitating anxiety and depression that brought me into that office that day. I didn’t even realize that I was suffering the effects of PTSD let alone CPTSD. In fact I was so confused by the mental health issues, I thought since I was away from the dangerous situation I ought to be feeling better. That confusion made it worse. Having an understanding of what’s going on, and why is very important.
My point here is not about my story, but to find out the root cause of your mental health issues can be very liberating, and give you a place to start in which to heal.
There are many types of therapists, with varying specialties, at different education and training levels. What works best though, regardless of any of that, is a good personality fit. Having a therapist you’re comfortable with is most important. Any therapist of any kind will be open about their training and education.
You will find my own information here “Meet Your Hypnotherapist”
If you’re interested in learning how hypnotherapy might be helpful for you, reach out with any questions or concerns. Consultations are always free and include a sample session so you can see how it feels for you.
Thank you so much for being here. I love to hear from you all. I’m open to suggestions for other article topics you would like to see me write about, as well as any thoughts on this or any other articles. You can reach me by using the contact form on the home page, or email me directly at Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com
Stay well, inside and out. Pamela Topjian LVN, CHt
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