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I Wrote My Memoir

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It is such an amazing feeling to have reached a goal of publishing my story, and to be an author. 

My book is titled “I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come THIS Far” Another title I considered was “The first fifty years are only practice” 

This is my own memoir. I started writing this book 5 years ago, and it was published in January 2022. I like to say that  it was 55 years in the making, and 5 years in the writing. Which is absolutely the case. I had a hard time coming to an end, since I was going to stop writing and end this book when my life settled down. However,  it’s clear that isn’t happening any time soon. I didn’t come this far to only come THIS far! I keep going, keep reaching my goals and dreams. It’s all even amazing to me, considering where I came from and how far down I was. 

I wanted to share my story with others, to show that in a real life story, that no matter what you are going through, or have been through, you can do more than survive, and just exist. There’s nothing special, or different about me. Much of what I have been through is all too common. 

I started writing my life story mainly as a form of therapy. To get it all out of me, and off of my chest. It was difficult at times, but very therapeutic. My story is one of childhood trauma that led to trauma in adulthood, eventually leading to a total breakdown in life. It doesn’t stop there, in fact that breakdown was a catalyst to a breakthrough in life. Now I’m not only living my life, but loving my life, checking off goals and thriving, finally in my 50’s.

My ultimate hope is to inspire others, so they know they are not alone, and that it can and does get better. I also wrote my story so as not to go to the grave without my story told, from my own point of view. So my ancestors will have a peek into the life of their great great grandmother or aunt. My goal for the book is to have made an impact and to know that it gave hope to those who have felt hopeless.

“I Didn’t Come This Far To Only Come THIS Far” by Pamela M. Topjian

I plan to write a book about the experience itself. The experience of writing out my story. As well as a bit of a how-to. There have been many people who have told me they have always wanted to write their story, but don’t know where to start. I may continue with volume two, as to what happens next in my life. This will depend on how much interest there is and how the rest of my life plays out. 

I do feel the need to give a sensitivity warning for domestic violence, rape, poverty and neglegt. This book is not all negative or depressing, it does end on a high note, reaching my goals and loving life! I just know that there is so much more to come. Because, it’s true “I Didn’t Come This Far To Only Come THIS Far” as the title says. I’m very excited for the future! 

A bit about me personally; I’m very happily married in a loving respectful marriage after two toxic marriages. I am the mother of two adult children, I meditate daily, and a certified hypnotherapist conducting sessions worldwide through zoom and phone. You can find more information on my website: HypnoBreakthrough.com I help people to dive deep within their own inner guidance to make positive changes in their lives. I changed careers after 14 years in the medical field as a licensed nurse to assist people on a more holistic and deeper level. I love animals and help with pet sitting here and there. I also love to paint, my artwork can be seen on products on Redbubble.com under “PamelaMarieArt” I sell the original paintings myself. My Book can be found on Amazon in paperback, kindle and on kindle unlimited. “I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come THIS Far”

Thank you so much for your interest. If you do read the book I would love honest feedback, weather or not you write a review on Amazon.

Your Story Matters

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Tell your story, I’m not saying it will be easy, I’m saying it will be worth it. 

Write out your story. It may be hard, it may be grueling, you may need a break, or several. However it’s therapeutic. You can do it in your own time, no rush, no deadline. 

Vulnerability is truth and it’s authentic. It’s helpful  to put it out there and say ‘ this is who I am, this is my life and this is why I am the way I am today.’ Rather; this is how I got to where I am today.

More importantly, it’s helpful for you to see reasons for the decisions you made, reasons that you can see more clearly as you write it out. Patterns and realizations that are right there in front of you,  in “black and white” so to speak. 

That will help you to feel more in control. Which in turn helps you to feel that you have grown and will do better. That you can now recognize red flags – whether it’s in relationships or a job or the toxicity of others around you. How you self sabotage or family patterns that keep you stuck.

To write it out is sort of a release that you cannot explain until you do it for yourself. You may think this is a common story, many have lived through these similar things, or much worse. Yes that’s all true, but your own story is unique. Those that are going through something similar may see your story and realize they are not alone. They may realize they too can write it out for others or themselves. To see how others have coped or been able to get themselves back to some sort of normalcy, or even happiness gives hope to those still in low areas of their lives. 

You may even think, I know my story all too well and I don’t need to write it out. I’m telling you it is different to know than it is to write. Again, It’s not easy, but well worth it. 

I recently wrote out my own story. I’m not one to talk about myself much, but with clients I found myself telling them I can understand, I know how that feels etc. A couple have encouraged me to write out my own story. It helps them to know their hypnotherapist really does know what its like to live through some tough times. I wanted it to be just the pain points, just the basic gist – but it ended up being three parts. Three long blog posts. Whether anyone reads all three or not, it was cathartic, and even therapeutic. Well worth it and why I suggest you do the same. 

Links to three blog posts telling my story: 

Part one: 

My Own Story (part one)

Part two: 

My Story (Part two)

Part three:

My Story; The conclusion. (part three)

I was already in the process of writing an autobiography, knowing it would be years until it was ready for publishing but working on it. Through writing that out, in part,  I was able to start to remember things that were hidden in my subconscious. 

I empowered myself by writing it all out. Realizing what I’ve been through and how my life could have gone, but went in a positive direction instead. Honestly, I’m proud of myself for that.  Dreams do come true, even when you feel helpless and hopeless, its possible, and I’m living proof. 

I do hope this was beneficial to you. Thank you so very much being here and reading this. If you have any questions or would like to share your story with me I’d love to hear it. I promise to never share your information with anyone. Whether you’re a client of mine or not. Everything is completely confidential. Any ideas or something else you would like to see my write about please feel free to let me know. 

If you’re having trouble remembering your story, or have childhood issues that you need to release, please consider hypnotherapy. Only you can heal yourself, but you don’t have to do it alone. 

Much love and gratitude always, 

Pamela Topjian CHt 

HypnoBreakthrough.com