“Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before you learned it” – Maya Angelou
Guilt, shame, regrets are all related to other emotional and even physical issues within us. We all have some, if not all of these feelings to some degree. It’s a way to keep ourselves in check, self reflect and review, to learn from our mistakes. Sometimes we blame others and let anger take over as a bandaid for guilt, shame or regret. We may not even realize we’re doing this.
While it’s true oftentimes we do have other people or situations that we need to forgive, even if they never apologize or see the errors in their ways or past behaviors. We forgive for ourselves, to be able to let go and move on. Easier said than done, I know. I have my own issues with this.
Forgiveness is about who we were at that time. Maybe we had lower self confidence, failed to set boundaries, didn’t heed the red flags or just didn’t have the wisdom that comes with hind sight and experience. Maybe we had lessons to learn before we could learn how strong or resilient we are, or that brought us to a place where we needed to be.
Look for the events leading up to that time in your life and what you have learned from it, what you have gained from that time. Who were you then compared to who you are now and would you be the same now if that didn’t happen?
This goes along with one of my previous articles here: Thankful for your trauma
There are several ways to work on forgiveness. In Hypnotherapy and/or meditation we can have a silent conversation within our mind or deeper within your subconscious, say all that you need to say to your younger self, or another person, even if they have passed on. You can even have a conversation with a situation or event. You can write a letter to burn or bury (or both) to release it. Just get it all out of you – say what needs to be said. There are other rituals and prayers etc.
The Hawaiian Ho’oponopono forgiveness prayer is great for this too. It helps to put your hand on your heart and say to yourself in the mirror.
“I’m sorry”
“Please forgive me”
“Thank you”
“I love you”
Repeated as many times as needed. These words can also be used in meditation or hypnotherapy sessions to speak directly to your inner wisdom.
So many of our issues stem from the need for self love, from shame, guilt, fear or regret. I love to get to the root and watch how lives are improved, even in ways that you may not have been seeking hypnotherapy for. I so often see this is the case, someone comes to me for one reason and it ends up being something deeper – lives are transformed once you can get to the core.
Thank you so very much for being here. I always love to hear what you think of the articles. Any thoughts you have about anything here, or even suggestions for other articles.
Please take care, inside and out.
Pamela CHt
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