Why I left nursing for Hypnotherapy. 

My nursing career, summed up in one word, was frustrating. I am a nurturer and healer by nature. I was a young mother, I took being a mom very seriously and loved every minute of it. Then I went on to care for premature infant twins as a live-in nanny, day care centers and eventually apprenticed with homebirth midwives. From there is when I went into nursing. All of those jobs and experiences I absolutely loved. In 2007 I graduated NMU Northern Michigan University, and passed the state boards for licensed practical/vocational nurse. (LPN/LVN) 

I noticed right away the lack of time and resources for genuine care, to be able to really do all we had learned in a way that was safe and effective for all involved. A lot of my training in my first job in a hospital was unlearning what I had learned in school.  Parts of the job were fulfilling and felt productive, mostly not. Mostly it was, well, frustrating. Almost always understaffed, working long hours with very few real breaks. Every nurse will tell you they sometimes don’t eat at all in a shift, or even use the restroom. It’s a common joke in nursing. Yet we wear it like a badge of honor, we have had every kind of body fluid on us, we have seen (and smelled) things most would faint or vomit from. 

I saw a lot of what I wasn’t supposed to see, or maybe ever talk about. There is a lot of corruption, there is a lot of mismanagement and uncaring people at the top. 

Most nurses I know are very caring people, work very hard and genuinely care for their patients. I’ve also worked with a few that are totally burned out. Which is where I was getting to the point of. I had other serious issues going on in my life at the time I realized I was starting to burn out myself. 

I had decided to go to a holistic health school before I started getting to this point of burnout. I have always been more natural in my self care and care of my children, ( I even had given birth at home with my second baby) I felt uneasy about all the medications and treatments in the western modern medical model. I wasn’t sure that I was really doing the best for the patients, even by following the Dr.’s orders and doing everything according to the rules and regulations. I was hoping to get into more of a natural, holistic modality of nursing, or at least patient care. That was 2010 and I was introduced to Hypnotherapy during those classes. I was amazed at the deep healing and life changes I saw happening. Hypnotherapy was just about always a positive experience for all involved. I always kept that in the back of my mind. I knew, or at least hoped, one day. Other than what was required for the classes, working with the public, I also practiced some with friends and family and a few others over the years. I did some group sessions for a recovery center and even used hypnotherapy with my patients some on overnight shifts. Just helping them to relax, or have less anxiety. 

Mostly I left nursing because near the end I couldn’t handle the death of babies, or little ones having to live in such sick bodies. I came across times I felt my license was in jeopardy by being asked (or ordered) to do things in ways I knew was not legal or more importantly safe for all involved. I felt my life was in danger a few times. (as most nurses have) Nursing 12-16 hour shifts with 20-40 patients at a time ruined my hands, I have a type of degenerative arthritis that gets worse with use. I had one Dr. tell me I should get out of nursing to save my hands – that was about 2014. 

I was at the edge of burnout, if not already there. I was definitely at the very least disgruntled with nursing, when Hypnotherapy came back into my life. I had everything showing me I needed to go in this direction; dreams, synchronicities – breakthroughs in hypnotherapy sessions and meditations.

It’s a huge relief not to be in that tough spot, it’s an honor and privilege to know I’m helping people to heal in deeper ways that will stick with them and truly change their lives for the better. 

I feel like I am making a difference now, I know this is my true calling and purpose. I never felt that strongly about my nursing career. I do need to say that I have a deep respect for all those in the medical field that have found a way to make it work for them, that truly are making a difference, there are many, I know a few of them. I have dear friends that are amazing nurses. I salute you, but it’s not for me. 

To show my respect, to give back and help prevent burnout in others, I have a standing offer for all medical and healthcare staff for one free phone hypnotherapy session per month – contact me if you’re interested. 
If you are feeling burned out in your career or unsure if the path you are on is right for you hypnotherapy can help you go deep within to find the answers.

Thank you so much for being here. Any questions at all or suggestions for future articles, feel free to reach out anytime. Pamle@HypnoBreakthrough.com or you can use the contact form on the home page

Healing the inner child, and Inner child work. How do I know if my inner child needs healing?

So often I have clients that come to me for help with a specific issue, to realize down the road it all is rooted in childhood. It may not be any traumatic event or abuse, it may just be limiting beliefs, or values, passed down. It may be a lack of coping skills or inability to share or show love openly. It may even be just one thing that was said, overheard or that you saw as a child, that was misunderstood, or was confusing for a child that stuck with you, and left a block deep down.

A personal example is when a good friend of my mothers told me “Don’t you cry! You have to be strong for your mother!” This woman has since passed on. Yes, she was in the wrong for giving me that advice, especially when it was at the hospital when my sister was killed in a car accident when I was 13 years old. That lead to a life long inability, or reluctance to share my feelings or show emotions. I also kept things from my mother to save her feelings. Why this woman said that to me at that time was probably something in her that needed healing, and I’m sure she never meant for me to carry that with me the rest of my life. I can only guess, but I do know she had no ill intent, and it was her own issues from where that advice came from.

Not many of us have had the perfect childhood.  Many of us have good childhood memories, and yet, far too many have had a traumatic childhood. Whatever your childhood experience was, or was not,  the inner child in you will benefit from a connection. We all have parents who were only human (most of us anyway) with their own baggage that they may have raised us with. Nobody is perfect, and cannot be, we cannot expect perfection from anyone, including ourselves. Unfortunately we cannot go back and change the past, but we can do our best to heal, so we can move forward in life without the same old blocks and baggage that has been passed down to us,  perhaps for generations.  

Inner child work.

Some ways that you can help your inner child is by writing a letter to them. What do you wish they knew at the time, what do you want to tell them about who you are now. 

Add some form of play into your life. What was your favorite game or toy as a kid, when was the last time you just played? Get outdoors, put your toes in the sand or the grass. Start a sport, see if you can play a game without keeping score, just for the fun of it. Get out the crayons, or paints without concern for the outcome, just have fun. Use color and shapes to play and express your feelings or create a fantasy world with unrealistic characters. Sing, play some music and dance or just move your body to the music without regard for how well your moves are or what anyone thinks.

Another way is to think of one person that you knew without a doubt loved you fully and unconditionally as a child. Now imagine from that person’s perspective, how they view you, and all the love they feel. What would that person say to you now? Just allow yourself to imagine, or daydream. 

Hypnotherapy can help.

During Hypnotherapy sessions we can break through to the blocks and obstacles, to be able to release them. We can give your inner child what they needed to hear way back then, or ask them what they need to tell the adult you. We can show that little one inside of you that you are there for them now, and they are not alone. If you’re not sure what is needed or what might help your inner child, we can find those answers for you. Your subconscious mind is the voice within, it is your inner knowing and your very own, personal inner wisdom. It has been with you forever and has the answers. 

When you’re ready, contact me for a free consultation to  address any questions or concerns and find out how hypnotherapy can help you – let’s have a chat, and even a sample session if you would like to see how it feels before you make any decisions. There is never any obligation or pressure, your information is always kept confidential.

Thank you so very much for being here. I always love to hear what you think of the articles. Any thoughts you have about anything here, or even suggestions for other articles.

Please take care, inside and out. 

– Pamela CHt

Contact me with any concerns or questions or to schedule your free consultation. Use the contact form on the home page, or email me directly at Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com

You may also text anytime at all, or call and leave a message. 916-400-0889

“Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know before you learned it” – Maya Angelou 

Guilt, shame, regrets are all related to other emotional and even physical issues within us. We all have some, if not all of these feelings to some degree. It’s a way to keep ourselves in check, self reflect and review, to learn from our mistakes. Sometimes we blame others and let anger take over as a bandaid for guilt, shame or regret. We may not even realize we’re doing this.

While it’s true oftentimes we do have other people or situations that we need to forgive, even if they never apologize or see the errors in their ways or past behaviors. We forgive for ourselves, to be able to let go and move on. Easier said than done, I know. I have my own issues with this. 

Forgiveness is about who we were at that time. Maybe we had lower self confidence, failed to set boundaries,  didn’t heed the red flags or just didn’t have the wisdom that comes with hind sight and experience. Maybe we had lessons to learn before we could learn how strong or resilient we are, or that brought us to a place where we needed to be. 

Look for the events leading up to that time in your life and what you have learned from it, what you have gained from that time. Who were you then compared to who you are now and would you be the same now if that didn’t happen? 

This goes along with one of my previous articles here:  Thankful for your trauma

There are several ways to work on forgiveness. In Hypnotherapy and/or meditation we can have a silent conversation within our mind or deeper within your subconscious, say all that you need to say to your younger self, or another person, even if they have passed on. You can even have a conversation with a situation or event. You can write a letter to burn or bury (or both) to release it. Just get it all out of you – say what needs to be said. There are other rituals and prayers etc. 

The Hawaiian Ho’oponopono forgiveness prayer is great for this too. It helps to put your hand on your heart and say to yourself in the mirror. 

“I’m sorry” 

“Please forgive me” 

“Thank you” 

“I love you” 

Repeated as many times as needed. These words can also be used in meditation or hypnotherapy sessions to speak directly to your inner wisdom. 

So many of our issues stem from the need for self love, from shame, guilt, fear or regret. I love to get to the root and watch how lives are improved, even in ways that you may not have been seeking hypnotherapy for. I so often see this is the case, someone comes to me for one reason and it ends up being something deeper – lives are transformed once you can get to the core. 

Thank you so very much for being here. I always love to hear what you think of the articles. Any thoughts you have about anything here, or even suggestions for other articles.

Please take care, inside and out. 

Pamela CHt

Contact me with any concerns or questions, or to book your free consultation. Use the contact form on the home page, or email me directly at Pamela@HypnoBreakthrough.com You may even text anytime at all or call and leave a message. 916-400-0889